PRESIDENT'S DAY

The following is the list of presidents that I like:

John Quincy Adams - This was the FIRST president to fight against slavery (he lost but still he recognized it was wrong).

Abraham Lincoln - president during the Civil War - if the South had won what would the US look like today.

 

John F. Kennedy - started the Space Program and spoken out for the Civil Rights Moment.

 

Lyndon B. Johnson - After JFK's assassination, this president put forth federal law that gave African Americans the right to vote, fair housing and employment laws and ended segregation. He essentially moved thru the House and Senate all the laws that Kennedy was working on.  He did not have to do that.  He could have denied or threw it all away.  After all he was a "good-Ole boy" from Texas.

William "Bill" J. Clinton - the only president in my opinion who was the common, everyday man.  He was the only president since Andrew Jackson in which the US was debt free.   Bill was almost impeached for receiving a bj in the oval office....LOL.

 

Barack H. Obama - This guy has the toughest job on the planet.  Our first president of African decent.  He has 2 wars to fight, failing bank system, recession, bipartisan-ism and racism.  His future as a good president is too soon to tell.

 

This is a very interesting picture.

 

After President's Obama 8 years in office (if he is re-elected), I hope Hillary Clinton becomes the U.S. First Woman President.  She is smart and intelligent, experienced, educated, articulate, work-class background, Bill's wife (former First Lady), opinionated yet diplomatic and strong-willed.  Just want we need.

 

HAPPY VALENTINE'S DAY

ASS - ARSE - BUTTOCK - BOOTY - BOY PUSSY - CAKES - GLUTEUS MAXIMUS

Most guys have a favorite body part.  I have quite a few listed below but my favorite is as the title suggests.

The  first thing I notice in a guy are his eyes.  It is not just about the color.  It is also the shape and expression.  They say "eyes are the windows to the soul".

I have never admitted this but I have accepted that I also have an attraction to feet.  I have always loved boots.  But subconsciously I look at guys shoes and try to image what their feet look like. (Don't tell anyone it's our little secret).  Because I live in Southern California, the average guy here has a collection of sandals/flip flops.  So, on a daily basis I get my fill of seeing very nice feet.

I have a funny story:

I briefly dated this guy.  He had a great body and masculine.  Thank God he was a bottom LOL.  Anyway, the first time we had sex we were actually in the shower.  I looked down at his feet and I almost lost my erection.  We continued having sex but moved to the bedroom.  I did everything I could to get the picture of his ugly feet out of my mind.  I covered his feet with the sheets.  The next time we had sex I told him that I hate feet and asked if he would keep his sock on especially during sex.  Strange/funny story but true.

 

Another feature that gets my attention is a strong, chiseled jawline.  If the guy also has a cleft chin whoa baby!  The cleft chin is more of a genetic trait.  Interesting enough enhanced jawlines and cleft chin plastic surgery are one of the poplar surgeries guys request. (Sad example but think of Michael Jackson).  A lot of German men for some reason have the strong chiseled jawline.

 

But (no pun intended) the #1 physical trait that gets my attention is a nice, firm, tight, bubble butt.  Nothing looks better in a jock strap, jeans or just naked lying in a bed.

 

 

 

So to my brothers who prefer a guy with a big dick,

yeah the guy above is hot and trust me I would not kick him out of bed, but, GIVE ME A MAN WITH A NICE ASS over a big dick any day.

Stud Muffin of the Week: RICKY SINZ

I have decided to once a week pay homage to a guy who has gotten my attention.  It might be a guy who I find hot.  It might be a guy who I think is soo smart (I love smart men).  It may be a guy who I think is soo funny (if you can make me laugh you score extra points).  Or just a guy who is just talented at whatever.

This weeks Stud Muffin is:

- RICKY SINZ - 
PORN STAR
DANCER
DJ
AND
MILITARY VETERAN

 

I am one of those guy that never really pay attention to the strippers/go-go boys/dancers at night clubs.  Because 9 time out of 10 they can't dance, not sexy or just trying to hard.  While visiting my family in Chicago, I meet some friends out a a club called Jack Hammer.  It is a neighborhood club, in the front is a bar and dance floor.  In the back are pool tables and another bar.  There are tv monitors all around the club playing music videos.  But on one tv monitor they play only porn.  Out the corner of my guys one of the guys in the porn called Grunts caught my attention.  There was this tattooed stud plowing some ass with amazing expertise.  I looked watching his bubble butt gyrate.  Although he is a native of Chicago I loved his Eastern European features.  I decided to go to the bar for another drink.  I get the drink and I turn around to look at the platform because they announced the first stripper.  Low and behold, it was the tattooed fucker from the movie. I have NEVER given a stripper even a $1.  I watched Ricky shake that ass and move to the beat.  The guys were lined up to shower this guy with money.  He danced to 2 songs.  He finished his routine and disappeared.  Later that night he reappeared as the finale.  After his last dance, as he was walking to the dressing room to change to his street clothes, I approached him.  We actually had a conversation.  He was approachable, nice/friendly, and totally not fake.  He did not rush me away.  I complimented him and he allowed me to touch every inch of his body.

  It was a great experience.  I wish him the best of luck in all his future hopes and dreams.

STEREOTYPES

At a very early age we were all taught to see things that are different or alike and put them into groups.  Remember in elementary school or while watching Sesame Street the assignment would be "which one of the pictures do not belong".

Example:  There would be a picture of 3 blue balloons and 1 red balloon.  And of course the red one does not belong.

 

But somewhere along the way some of us have taken it a step farther.  Some of us think that the one that does not belong/or is not like the others is a "bad" thing.  Being different has been seen as not of the same or equal quality or worth.   And that is when STEREOTYPES AND GENERALIZATIONS are created.

Let's start with the definition of stereotypes.

Stereotype:  A simplified and standardized concept or image invested with special meaning and held in common by members of a group.

Right now Gay Rights are in the news a lot.  Some states are deciding on gays civil right to marry.  The government is in discussion about Gays in the military.  A lot of the issues center around stereotypes.

Example #1:  Gays are perceived as immortal and promiscuous.  Their relationships and families are not of the same worth/quality/realness as a heterosexual couple.  And that Gays interrupt the concept of marriage. 

Example #2:  Gays in the military would convert the heterosexual service members. Gays in the military would not be able to control themselves in shower situation or sleeping quarters.  Gays would spread disease.  Gays would not be able to handle a combat situation.  Gays would come to work in drag (yes!, I heard that on NPR from a listener that called in).  All gay men are effeminate.

I do "get-it" that most people who do not understand something search for evidence of recognition in order to relate.  Because some people feel more comfortable hanging out with someone who has a common interest and beliefs.  Some prefer to hang out with people who look like themselves. Which is why we have clubs, groups and communities.

But what happens when you encounter a person/group that is different from your beliefs, interest or appearance?   You flashback to the first time you had this experience and usually treat that person/situation the way you handled it in the past.  The outcome may have went well or poorly.

My advice to the wise, take the stereotypes you have about any person or group and throw them away.  We are all individuals.

Example #1:  Not all gay men are effeminate and have a sense of style for fashion or interior design.

Example #2:  Not all Black men are hung.

Example #3:  Not all Gay Asian men are submissive/bottoms and have a small dicks.

Example #4:  Not all Latinos are uncut.

Example #5:  Not all Blonds are dumb.

My entire existence is the total opposite of what stereotypes dictate.  And believe it or not because I am a clean-cut, articulate, professional. educated, world traveled, gay but not some flame, upper middle-class, light-skin mixed Black men I am told I am not "Black acting" or an "oreo".  But if I was totally White, I would be considered a "good catch".  Sometimes I feel that if I was a thug from the ghetto I would get more action LOL.

I do have my own list of stereotypes such as:

1. I do think Asian are awful drivers.
2. I do think people who drives the Toyota Prius drive too damn slow and usually in the fast lane.
3. When I see cowboys boots, hat and buckle or hear a country accent, I do think redneck racist.
4. I do wonder why Latinos go every where in a group.  I always see a car full of them.
5. When I see a very hot guy I do typically think he probably has no personality and boring in bed.
6. When I see a big tall muscle guy I think small dick.
7. When a person says they are Republican I do think racist, religious, closed-mind conservative.

BUT, seriously I only say thing things to my friends out of humor.  I don't really believe the comments I listed.  Okay ok maybe #7.

The only thing all Black people have in common is that they are all of African decent.  The only thing all gay people have in common is that we fall in love with someone of the same gender.

I am sure if you talk to anyone they have a horror story to tell about being judged based on some stereotype.  My story is not unique, and indeed too common and something I don't want to get use to experiencing.

GAY LABELS

In the USA it is estimated that 10% of the population is Gay.  So that is about 25 Million people.  Within the 25 million gay people we are broken ourselves down into labels/groups.

Twinks - very young, skinny and cute gay boys.
Bears - Big and hairy guys.
Otters - Tall and skinny hairy guys.
Wolves - Big and hairy older men.
Leathermen -  gay guys who are into leather/uniforms etc.
Cowboys -  gay men into country-western music, cowboy boots, jeans and hat.
Circuit Boys - gay men that usually dance with shirts off and high on something dancing to trance music.
Edgy -  gay guys who are into tattoos and/or piercings and dress more with an alternative.
Jocks -  gay men who wear a lot of athletic clothing usually baseball caps. And into sports.
Artsy - gay men who dress very colorfully and into the art scene.
Muscle men - gay men who live in the gym and loves there tank tops....very muscular.
The Activist - gay men who live, eat and drink for gay right and usually wearing some type of pro-gay button.
Non-scene - the gay guy that does not attend any type of gay events or even have gay friends.
Throlls - gay men who are soo fucking old but yet they are still in the club.
Daddies - gay men who are hot and range in age from 45 - 55
Average/Normal Guy that does not fit in any scene - just the gay normal guy that is often overlooked. But yet in demand.
Drag Queens - gay men who dress in drag and it is not Halloween.
Queens - gay men that are effeminate.

 Did I leave any out? Which one are you?
  

In each of those sub-communities they have their own clubs, slang and standards.

In Los Angeles we have the West Hollywood (WeHo) boys and the Silverlake Boys.  The WeHo Boys are type casted with having a lot of attitude, body conscience, fashion whores, materialistic and not friendly.  The Silverlake Boys consider themselves more laid back, more masculine, edgy and anti-Weho.  I find both groups to be cliquish.  It was that same thing when I lived in San Francisco, the Castro Boys vs. South of Marker (SoMo) Boys.  In NYC the Village Boys vs. Chelsea Boys.  I find it all very interesting because my heterosexual friends don't have all these labels.

I am the average gay guy that is actually a little bit of everything.  I can hang out in any part of town or with any type of people and feel comfortable and just be myself. I have been labeled by my friends as the clean-cut average guy with an edge.  Picture a preppy guy with a twist of something alternative like boots or fly ass sneakers.  I love that people look at me and have no ideas I have quite a few tattoos....that's me (what you see is not necessarily what you get).  I love that about myself.

I look like/perceived as and dress like:

 

But inside I feel like:

So labels and clicks are not really my thing and I refuse to be put in a box.  All my life labels have gotten me into a lot of trouble because my outward appearance does not match my views/opinions or behavior.

Having all of these labels have PROs and CONs.  One of the only times we as Gay people seem to some together with no judgment is during Gay Pride Weekend.

Wouldn't be great if there were no labels.  And we just treated each other on the merit of our actions.

RACISM OR RACIAL SEXUAL PREFERENCE

If you are attracted to ONLY your own ethnicity (I hate the word race – in my mind there is only one race – The Human Race) and not others, does that make you a racist? 

First let’s look at the definition according to Webster:

Racism:  1. A belief or doctrine that inherent differences among the various human races determine cultural or individual achievement, usually involving the idea that one’s own race is superior and has the right to rule others.    2.  Hated or intolerance of another race.

I have a large circle of friends/associates and I am the ONLY one in that circle that is completely open to all ethnicities.  I am honestly and truly attracted to Blacks, Asians, Whites, Latinos and others.  

 Asian

Latino

White

Black

Other










I do understand that a lot of times attraction is subconscious.  But in some circumstances I believe there is a motive. 

Example:     When I lived in San Francisco I briefly date a Korean Guy.  We had many conversation about how some (no….most) Asians ONLY date White guys.  We were both confused by this epidemic LOL.  After traveling to Hong Kong, Tokyo and Singapore I came back to the USA with a newfound observation.  A lot of Asian men date ONLY White because they are seeking financial security and acceptance.  And unfortunately the ONLY picture of financial security and acceptance is thru the White tourist or via the media.  Usually the big America dreams centers around being wealthy.  And the only vision of wealth that is available to them is thru White tourist.  This is just my observation.

There are other times when I hear the term “opposites attract”.  

          Example:     I have a White friend that only dates Black men.  I instantly thought, “Ok, he is  
          looking for the biggest, blackest dick he can find”.  But in reality he is a top but he is only  
          attracted to very dark and very African features.  He loves the total opposite of himself (his 
          White skin next to dark skin – his straight next to curly hair – his light against dark eyes).  
          I found that very fascinating.

Now the issue that I find really offensive and insulting is when a guy says or writes in let’s say a website profile:  “No Blacks or Asians” or “No Mexicans”.  I understand we all like what we like (motive or not) BUT it still does not mean you have to lack sensitivity or tact.  Doesn’t it sound/read better to write:  “White guy seeking same” or “GWM only”.  And the same for Black men, it sounds better to write: “Black men seeking same” instead of “No Whites”.  I will always remember the time I approached this guy and he said to me, “sorry not into black men or whatever you are”.  I do not think it is ever necessary to be that tactless.  I think the proper response is “Thank you for the compliment” or “Sorry not interested”.  But to tell the guy why you are not interested is downright mean. 

I think it is best to not say what ethnicity you are into and just go after what you want or wait for it to come to you.  When I read a profile that reads “No Black or Asians”.  I think, “Do you dislike Asians and Blacks that much that you have to write it in your profile”.  Once when I was visiting a friend in DC (he is White, blonde hair and blue eyes – the perfect A&F model type) we went out clubbing in DuPont Circle.  A hot Black guy tried to talk to him, my friend only dates White guys with dark hair more of the Italian look, and anyway, my friend very politely had a brief conversation with the guy.  He never said or let-on that he is not into Black men.  We use to be roommate so I know for a fact he is not a racist.  He just likes what he likes. My friend was totally nice and actually flattered by the whole situation.

Honestly I still at my age (42) find it strange/interesting when a guy is one ethnicity and he is not attracted to his own ethnicity.  To me, HOT is HOT, SEXY is SEXY.  To me it is like dogs, a dog is a dog.  And there are many breeds.  But, I would think a Poodle would be attracted to another Poodle more than it would be attracted to a Pit Bull (don’t laugh, it is the first analogy that came to my mind).

 Poodle

Pitt Bull

If you like one ethnicity over another based on some type of socio-economic scale or negative stereotypes, I am going to venture and say..... you are a racist.  

If you only like your own ethnicity and it is strictly about physical attraction....... you are not a racist.   

If you like a particular ethnicity base on some type of stereotype…..stay tuned for another blog on the subject called “Sexual Fetish or Objectification”.